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Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
modesty
Wow, modesty?! What a loaded subject. But I thought I would give my input on it because I've been thinking/praying about it and feel the need to share my thoughts. Being a freshman in college, modesty is one of the last things girls are thinking about. Especially being in a sorority, it's so easy to just wear the tight skirt or put on the low cut shirt. And I'm not saying that I've perfected the "cute-but-still-modern-and-modest" style, because I most definitely have not. It's a subject that has been talked about in Bible studies around the world (I'm guessing) and a subject spoken about a lot between Catholic guys and girls trying to find a happy medium. Going to a Catholic high school, we were bombarded with the issues of modesty and never even got into a dance without going through "dress patrol". After searching endlessly through stores trying to find a dress that wasn't see-through or too revealing, I just decided to make my own (problem solved!) Even though it was a huge hassle, I can easily say that I am so extremely thankful that I grew up in a school that held me to higher standards and in a house that raised me to respect my own body and others and not dress like a slut.
But as I've gone off to college and had one year under my belt, I'm starting to see modesty in a different light. Of course modesty is and always will be an issue of how women dress. It is dressing in a way that calls men to see not only the mere parts of your body in which you show off, but to see women's souls and personalities rather than solely their bodies. As a fashion design major, my main goal is to make the fashion industry and the world realize how much we could change if women just started respecting themselves more and dressed more modestly. (Keep me and all that in your prayers). But what I want to talk about here is the deeper part of modesty. Not only the clothing and the covering up the body but another aspect: guarding your heart.
One Bible verse that has always stuck our to me is this, "Above all else, guard your heart. For in it are the sources of life." -Proverbs 4:23 Holy crap, right?! "Above ALL ELSE" not, "guard your body then your heart" but "above everything, guard your heart." God tells us that our hearts are the most sacred part of us, and how true is that? I'll answer that for you, super true. So what does this have to do with modesty? Well, have you ever heard of emotional chastity? If you haven't, you're in for a journey. If you have, you can attest to my saying it might be one of the hardest things ever. Basically for girls it means, when you meet a guy that you may potentially like and he may potentially like you, don't go tell all your friends how you guys are going to get married and creep him on Facebook and picture how your name and his last name sound together. And if you tell me you've never done that, you're lying because we all have.
To guard our hearts I feel like is one of, if not the most important thing we have to do. In our day and age, especially in college, the majority of guys are looking for one thing. And what's the one way they linger us in? By telling us the things that will make us believe them and make us believe that our hearts will be safe in their hands. Even guys know that the way to win girls over is by going for their "heart" to get into their pants. In my Morality class junior year of high school, Father Faulkner said, "Guys use love to get sex. And girls use sex to get love." Which is the sad truth.
So what's the point of all of this?
I guess what I'm trying to get at is that guarding your body and keeping your virginity and all that good stuff is super important and I'm 100% for staying pure of body. But I want to challenge you, guys or girls, to stay pure of heart. It's easy for me to put on modest clothes and say I'm modest, but I think modesty goes further then that. It's not only guarding your "body" but guarding your heart as well. It's just like the saying, "If you give a piece of your body away to multiple random guys, what's left for your husband?" I'm saying, If you give little pieces of your heart away to guys that aren't worthy of it and don't deserve it, what are you going to have to give to your soulmate who has proven his love and worth to you?
St. Maria Goretti, pray for us
Stay classy San Diego, (and modest) and always,
stay.beautiful
But as I've gone off to college and had one year under my belt, I'm starting to see modesty in a different light. Of course modesty is and always will be an issue of how women dress. It is dressing in a way that calls men to see not only the mere parts of your body in which you show off, but to see women's souls and personalities rather than solely their bodies. As a fashion design major, my main goal is to make the fashion industry and the world realize how much we could change if women just started respecting themselves more and dressed more modestly. (Keep me and all that in your prayers). But what I want to talk about here is the deeper part of modesty. Not only the clothing and the covering up the body but another aspect: guarding your heart.
One Bible verse that has always stuck our to me is this, "Above all else, guard your heart. For in it are the sources of life." -Proverbs 4:23 Holy crap, right?! "Above ALL ELSE" not, "guard your body then your heart" but "above everything, guard your heart." God tells us that our hearts are the most sacred part of us, and how true is that? I'll answer that for you, super true. So what does this have to do with modesty? Well, have you ever heard of emotional chastity? If you haven't, you're in for a journey. If you have, you can attest to my saying it might be one of the hardest things ever. Basically for girls it means, when you meet a guy that you may potentially like and he may potentially like you, don't go tell all your friends how you guys are going to get married and creep him on Facebook and picture how your name and his last name sound together. And if you tell me you've never done that, you're lying because we all have.
To guard our hearts I feel like is one of, if not the most important thing we have to do. In our day and age, especially in college, the majority of guys are looking for one thing. And what's the one way they linger us in? By telling us the things that will make us believe them and make us believe that our hearts will be safe in their hands. Even guys know that the way to win girls over is by going for their "heart" to get into their pants. In my Morality class junior year of high school, Father Faulkner said, "Guys use love to get sex. And girls use sex to get love." Which is the sad truth.
So what's the point of all of this?
I guess what I'm trying to get at is that guarding your body and keeping your virginity and all that good stuff is super important and I'm 100% for staying pure of body. But I want to challenge you, guys or girls, to stay pure of heart. It's easy for me to put on modest clothes and say I'm modest, but I think modesty goes further then that. It's not only guarding your "body" but guarding your heart as well. It's just like the saying, "If you give a piece of your body away to multiple random guys, what's left for your husband?" I'm saying, If you give little pieces of your heart away to guys that aren't worthy of it and don't deserve it, what are you going to have to give to your soulmate who has proven his love and worth to you?
St. Maria Goretti, pray for us
Stay classy San Diego, (and modest) and always,
stay.beautiful
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