Human beings amaze me. Their compassion, their support, their beauty--it has all just amazed me. And although many of us expect humans to be nice to each other, that's obviously not always the case. I'm actually not really sure what I expected to meet when I got down here to good 'ole Texas. I was expecting a summer of solitude and self-exploration and frankly, just being alone (which was oddly okay with me.) However, the second I got down here I had a plethora of people asking me to hang out, go to the bars with them, go shopping, go to baseball games, etc. They brought me in and made me feel like I was a part of the group and it made the transition so much easier and way more fun. And let me just tell you that Texans might even be *dare I say* nicer then Nebraskans. (Keyword: might.)
anyways...
For the past three years in college, I've surrounded myself with the most amazing and incredible people. They are people who love beyond limits, would drop anything to be with you when you can't seem to pick yourself up out of bed, and go on Sonic runs (or Jimmy Johns) in the middle of the night just cause. And having these people around me has made me realize how important it is to spend your time and energy with people who love you no matter what and who will be there no matter what. There are people in my life who I have given way too much credit and energy to who are undeserving of it. Isn't it funny that we have so many people who love us in the world, yet we focus our energy on the few who don't? Why the heck do we do that? Seriously though...will someone please tell me. Love them, yes. But I'm vowing to no longer waste energy on people who....well..shitty.
I read a blog the other day and it helped me to realize that happiness isn't an object to attain. So many people think that once they "get happy" or "get happiness" but really that isn't what it is about at all. Happiness is inside of you, however cliché that sounds. No one can give you happiness. So stop thinking that is going to come from someone else.
A couple of months ago, I got an arrow tattooed on my side with my sister. At first, it was a reminder to myself to keep moving forward no matter what. However, being away it has kind of taught me something else. Yes, it points forward. But in reality, it points to the place I've come from as well as the place that I'm going. Wherever the hell that is. It points to the people who support me no matter what, even when I pick up and decide to move to Texas. It points to the people who never get sick of having to remind me that everything is going to be okay.
This blog was all over the place and I apologize for that. But, if you're reading this far that means you must have found something worthwhile in it and for that I am thankful. Know that I am praying for y'all and keep this wandering soul in your prayers as well.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Monday, June 16, 2014
The Pill Actually Sucks.
Many, many women in our generation are currently taking a little white pill
labeled “The Birth Control Pill.” If you are reading this and are one of these
women, in no way, shape or form is this article supposed to reprimand you for
doing so. I understand that there are medical reasons (some life threatening)
that women take it. However, I wish to inform you of the truths that many
doctors fail to tell you when they prescribe this pill that is supposed to
solve all of your problems. Let me start off by saying that you and your
femininity are absolutely beautiful. Do not let anyone tell you anything
differently. Believe it or not, your fertility
and those pesky hormones are what make you a woman.
Here are ten truths about the pill that most people don’t know before they take it.
Here are ten truths about the pill that most people don’t know before they take it.
1)
Increased risk of cancer
There have been many articles written about how the pill is said to decrease chances of ovarian cancer. However, in a
study done by the American Journal of
Obstetrics and Gynecology in 2004, “Women who are on the pill have an
increased chance of getting breast, cervical and liver cancer. In another study
done by the Cancer Epidemiology, Biomakers and Prevention center in California,
“Women who regularly use the pill are
4.2 times more likely to get breast cancer.”
If this doesn’t make an impact on you,
think about this. The number of cases of breast cancer has risen over 80% since
the 1970s. Do you know what happened right before that? You guessed it, the
birth control pill was approved in 1960.
2)
Origin of the Pill
When
Dr. Gregory Pincus originally introduced the pill, he started off the study by
testing the birth control pill on men. The study showed that the birth control
pill caused "testicular swelling on the men" so they stopped the study right
away. Dr. Pincus then started testing the pill on women. During this study,
three women died and yet they still continued. To this day, there are no oral
contraceptives for men because it is “too risky”. This, ladies and gentlemen,
is sexism at its finest.
3)
Bad Sex.
Although
not all girls are on the pill for
sexual reasons, believe it or not, many girls actually are. We are meant to
have sex—good sex. Actually not just good sex, we are made to have GREAT sex.
Naturally, women are the horniest when they are ovulating. However, the pill stops that ovulation which,
in turn, stops the inherent, natural desire for sex. Ever heard of faking the
big O? Yeah, this is why women are known for doing that—because of this stupid
pill. We have to use pornography and sex toys to make sex more enjoyable when
in fact our natural desire for sex is meant to be good enough.
4) Manhood
and Masculinity is attacked
During ovulation, women are more attracted
to guys with masculine features (i.e. broad shoulders, facial hair, muscles). Women
who are on the pill don’t have “fertile days” which means they don’t have the
same hormonal changes that cause them to be attracted to men of dissimilar
genetic makeup (according to Dr. S. Craig Roberts). Women in this study
reported to be less satisfied with men of similar genetic makeup then after
sleeping with men of dissimilar genetic makeup. This non-satisfaction leads me
to my next point.
5)
Increases the chance of divorce
Although the pill isn’t directly correlated
to the increase of divorce, studies show that couples that use NFP (Natural
Family Planning), as opposed to artificial contraceptives, have less than 0.2%
divorce rate. Compare this number to scary (and rising) national divorce rate
of 50%.
6) The Symptoms
Many women (and girls) who go on the
pill are most concerned with the most common side effect—weight gain. Ladies,
the doctors will tell you that weight gain, some spotting, and bigger boobs are
the only side effects of the pill but I’m sorry to tell you that they are
absolutely wrong. Those are some of the most common side effects, but in
reality, a lot of other sh** happens to your body without you even knowing. I
had two friends within two weeks of each other get rushed to the ER because
they had a blood clot that was caused by their birth control. There are so many lawsuits out there that are
suing various birth control brands because they caused blood clots, strokes,
heart attacks, and even death. You tell me, is a clear, acne-free face or
cramp-less period worth your life? I don’t think so.
7) Objectifies
women
Ladies, you don’t deserve to put
your beautiful body through the burden of having to live with being a slave to
this medication. Yes, maybe you take it for medical reasons, but there are actually
pretty natural ways to regulate your period, clear your acne, and make cramps
more bearable. Our culture says to women, “Your fertility is a problem and the
way to solve that is to change your life and schedule to become enslaved to
this pill, ring, shots, patches,” or whatever it may be. You are not a burden.
Your fertility, hormones, mood changes and all, are what make you a woman.
Embrace that!
8) It makes you LESS ATTRACTIVE
to men
We are in the time of our lives that
everyone around us either is looking for a significant other or is getting one.
Relationships and your attractiveness to the opposite sex are in the forefront
of everyone’s minds. So why would we take a pill influence our attractiveness
and ability to find a life-long mate? Lionel Tiger (and colleagues) did a study
where they put one male monkey on an island with six other female monkeys. The
male monkey picked out three female monkeys who were his primary sex partners.
Tiger then injected the female monkeys with contraceptives and the male monkey
stopped having sex with them. The male monkey then went on to have sex with the
female monkeys that weren’t on the contraceptive. This study shows that women who aren’t on contraceptives are more attractive to men.
9) Changes who
you’re attracted to
Pheromones are the odorless,
colorless chemical that attracts people to one another. Women give off the most
pheromones when they are ovulating, which makes them the most attractive during
this time. However, since the pill releases crazy amounts of artificial
hormones, the pheromones that the women are attracted to change when they stop
taking the pill. It goes back to the point I made in reason #4—it makes you
less attracted to masculine men and in turn your pheromones make you attracted to
a less suitable partner. (No thank you.)
10) It’s
harmful to the environment.
Finally, if none of these reasons
sway you to think twice before you pop that pill that is supposed to solve all
of your problems, give the environment a break. There are so many people that
are concerned with recycling and doing so much to help the earth, yet they are
doing harm to themselves AND the environment when they are taking this
artificial pill. The pill emits 30-50 mcg of estrogen in one dose. Every woman
that takes it ends up going to the bathroom, and in turn this water eventually
makes its way to water reservoirs and the fish actually take in the estrogen
that is in the water. EE2, which is the active ingredient in most birth control
pills, creates an “intersex” among fish. Which basically means makes male fish,
male/female fish. That’s gross. Let’s be nice to our environment and let male
fish be male fish.
Ladies and
gentlemen, (but mostly just ladies): you
are worth more then putting your body through all of this artificialness. Your
body was made in a way that is perfect just the way it is and there’s no reason
for you to have to change it. Do yourselves a favor and research (holistically)
what your doctors are prescribing and what you are putting into your body. Believe
me, the pill is not the end all be all to your problems and to your life.
Thursday, June 5, 2014
simplicity.
Woah. These last few weeks have been a whirlwind of craziness--from living out of a suitcase, to being in Lincoln for only 12 hours before driving down to Texas, to sleeping on an air mattress and the craziness continues. Here's my brief overview of what's been going on the last few weeks!
On Sunday afternoon, I got back from my amazing NYC study tour (see previous post). I got back only to shower, do laundry, get a good night's sleep, pack up my car and venture down to Texas with Daddio. The 10 hour drive went by fairly fast and we got down to Fort Worth in good time on Monday night. I temporarily moved into a house with some girls from TCU for the week and spent Tuesday roaming around Fort Worth with Dad. We drove around to get a feel for the town a little bit and after a much too quick visit, he headed out to Dallas to catch an early morning flight.
The first week of work I got to go to Dallas Market which is a huge building in Dallas that has hundreds of showrooms showcasing different brands and clothing lines for buyers to come shop around in. Although it was kind of a slow market, I got to really understand the brand and the product and talk to buyers about why I'm in love with the jeans. After work, I got to hang out with some of the girls that I was living with and had so much fun. College bars down here are actually super different then the "downtown" I know of (no 'Rail' in sight....thank the Lord.) There's live music, space to actually talk to people (what?!) and a ton of really great people in general.
Here is where the title of this blog comes into play. Since I've been down here, for less than two weeks, I've already learned quite a lot. The biggest thing I've learned is the lesson of simplicity. Before I came down here, I honestly didn't really know what I was getting myself into. Heck, I didn't have a place to live for a week until about three days before I was actually here. And when I did get down here, I quickly realized that I didn't know anyone. Nor am I outgoing enough to go out and meet people--I'd rather just go read by myself at a coffee shop. However, I've come to realize that you don't need to know what's going to happen every minute of every day. You don't necessarily have to be in control of everything because the Man who created you and who loves you beyond comprehension will take care of you. As I was skyping with one of my best friends back home, I came to the realization that there's a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Being down here in Texas with no family and none of my closest friends means I'm pretty much alone, doing my own thing. However, 'lonely' is one of the farthest things away from what I am. I'm not lonely at all, even though in essence I should be. But knowing that I'm living out God's will for my life at this very moment makes me so content with where I'm at and with what I'm doing.
I have no idea where I'm going to be in a year from now, but the simple answer is that I don't need to know. He knows. And that's all that truly matters. So my prayer tonight is a thanksgiving prayer, for all of the support from my parents, my sister and brother in-law, my amazing friends and all the other people in my life who have supported all of my crazy goings-on. I am truly blessed by all of the people in my life and by a God who unceasingly loves me. I cannot wait to see what this summer entails and to learn all of the lessons it may bring.
Remember, life is really quite simple.
On Sunday afternoon, I got back from my amazing NYC study tour (see previous post). I got back only to shower, do laundry, get a good night's sleep, pack up my car and venture down to Texas with Daddio. The 10 hour drive went by fairly fast and we got down to Fort Worth in good time on Monday night. I temporarily moved into a house with some girls from TCU for the week and spent Tuesday roaming around Fort Worth with Dad. We drove around to get a feel for the town a little bit and after a much too quick visit, he headed out to Dallas to catch an early morning flight.
The first week of work I got to go to Dallas Market which is a huge building in Dallas that has hundreds of showrooms showcasing different brands and clothing lines for buyers to come shop around in. Although it was kind of a slow market, I got to really understand the brand and the product and talk to buyers about why I'm in love with the jeans. After work, I got to hang out with some of the girls that I was living with and had so much fun. College bars down here are actually super different then the "downtown" I know of (no 'Rail' in sight....thank the Lord.) There's live music, space to actually talk to people (what?!) and a ton of really great people in general.
Here is where the title of this blog comes into play. Since I've been down here, for less than two weeks, I've already learned quite a lot. The biggest thing I've learned is the lesson of simplicity. Before I came down here, I honestly didn't really know what I was getting myself into. Heck, I didn't have a place to live for a week until about three days before I was actually here. And when I did get down here, I quickly realized that I didn't know anyone. Nor am I outgoing enough to go out and meet people--I'd rather just go read by myself at a coffee shop. However, I've come to realize that you don't need to know what's going to happen every minute of every day. You don't necessarily have to be in control of everything because the Man who created you and who loves you beyond comprehension will take care of you. As I was skyping with one of my best friends back home, I came to the realization that there's a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Being down here in Texas with no family and none of my closest friends means I'm pretty much alone, doing my own thing. However, 'lonely' is one of the farthest things away from what I am. I'm not lonely at all, even though in essence I should be. But knowing that I'm living out God's will for my life at this very moment makes me so content with where I'm at and with what I'm doing.
I have no idea where I'm going to be in a year from now, but the simple answer is that I don't need to know. He knows. And that's all that truly matters. So my prayer tonight is a thanksgiving prayer, for all of the support from my parents, my sister and brother in-law, my amazing friends and all the other people in my life who have supported all of my crazy goings-on. I am truly blessed by all of the people in my life and by a God who unceasingly loves me. I cannot wait to see what this summer entails and to learn all of the lessons it may bring.
Remember, life is really quite simple.
NYC trip (in a nutshell)
Hudson River Boat Tour
Being a fashion
design major, your one real dream is to go to New York City. NYC is where it
all happens, from fashion week to major corporate headquarters; it’s the city
where dreams come true. Caitlin Larwood, editorial director at makeup.com, told
us that, “Dream jobs happen in this city.” Hearing that come from someone who
has worked in the city for about five years and has an incredible job makes the
reality of it hit home. We were going to a city where the most important events
in fashion happen and I was more then ready for it.
After getting
advice from some friends who have lived and worked in New York, I was ready to
pack up my suitcase and get on the plane. Once we arrived, we were bused to our
hotel that seemed as though it was right out of a movie. That night we did a
little walking tour around the city and got to see the famous Bergdorf Goodman
window displays.
Bergdorf Goodman's Fifth Avenue Window Display
As I was walking down Fifth Avenue, I felt channeled by my
inner Audrey Hepburn and now fully understood why she went and had breakfast at
Tiffany’s every morning. To see this beautiful hunk of rock.
178.54 carat Yellow Tiffany's Diamond: only worn by 2 women ever.
A few of my
favorite places that we visited were Armani, Ann Taylor, the Doneger Group and
L’Oreal. When we walked into the Giorgio Armani offices, it felt like we passed
through the doors to a different world.
Giorgio Armani Offices overlooking Highline Park
Mind you, they were still doing some
unpacking from moving offices, but we had entered into the Armani World. All of
the people we met were in all black or all white and-oh my- they were chic. As
they talked about the company, you could see the passion they had for Armani
oozing out of their words. They spoke so highly about Mr. Armani and held the
standards that he has set for the company so high in their own careers. It was
inspiring to see people so passionate about their jobs and the company that
they work for. This was evident at Ann Taylor too, however the professionals
that we got to speak with here were more willing to share about their career
experiences and about what they liked and didn’t like about the industry. The Doneger
Group was a unique experience because it was a part of the industry that no one
really knows that much about. Hannah Kimberly gave us an overview of what will
be trending in Fall 2015 including colors, fabrics, shapes, etc.
Color samples at The Doneger Group
This was a very research heavy job—however very rewarding and useful to the entire industry. Finally, we went to L’Oreal where we met with the Social Media Marketing team and heard how a company keeps up with the ever-changing world of social media.
In our free time
when we weren’t going to meetings, we got to go to the Met Museum (which
allowed me to let out my inner Art History nerd)
Oh, just being Blair Waldorf outside the steps of the Met.
Claude Monet, enough said.
as well as an interesting
trip on the subway to Coney Island to watch the Creighton Baseball team play in
the Big East tournament (that ended up getting rained out.)
Go Bluejays!
Two of ten Creighton fans....
The aftermath.
Note: Don’t be in
Brooklyn past midnight if you are four twenty-something women and don’t go past
the aquarium (advice from the bartender from Iowa.) We also got to see the
incredibly glamorous and hilarious Broadway show—Kinky Boots. I’m still singing
along to the lyrics and wanting a pair of my own kinky boots.
Outside the Kinky Boots theatre!
All in all, I
cannot wait to go back to this wonderful city—the smells (bad and good), the
chaos of cabs, the ever-moving streets full of people who don’t know you and
frankly don’t really care to, and the not-so-glamorous however incredibly
magical hot dog stands. I’m open to wherever life takes me, however I hope that
someday I will end up back in the city where “dream jobs happen.”
Ohhh Fleet week.
Manhattan's Elite outside the Lincoln Center Ballet theatre
The inevitable "first cab ride/roomie pic"
Hotel overlooking Times Square
Marc Jacobs photo booth
"But first, let's take a selfie" (because we were just late to Armani.)
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